I have just found my phone in the fridge
Have you ever had the experience of walking into a room really fast and then standing there wondering what on earth you came to get? I have on numerous occasions; and it is not until I retrace my steps and then return to the room more slowly that I am able to recall why I had gone there in the first place.
Well the other day I managed to take the whole distraction piece to another level, I had misplaced my phone, which is unusual for me, and after searching the normal places, I gave up and decided have a cup of tea to collect my thoughts. On reaching for the milk I saw my phone. How on earth did it get in the fridge?
I took it as a sign that perhaps I was taking on a little too much and not looking after myself properly. I have a lot going on for me personally right now and that coupled with work, looking after our home and garden, and the horses and cats – I am in danger of getting into overwhelm.
So it is easy in these situation to default to unhealthy coping strategies -to perhaps drink a few too many glasses of wine, let the exercise routine slip or comfort eat that extra slice of cake. And I certainly have found myself doing all 3!
The phone in the fridge incident gave me a bit of a jolt – I realised that I was juggling too many balls and in danger of dropping them all if I didn’t take back some control and ground myself. I like a routine and so have instigated just a couple of daily practices to make sure I center myself and get present throughout the day – to be in the shower when I am in the shower as I heard someone once say! I know that when I meditate daily within a few days I feel more connected to myself and to others, I make better decisions and am more creative.
It is easy to come up with lots of reasons why one can’t do something – “I don’t have time, it isn’t worth it, I need to focus on other people right now”. Perhaps all of these things are true and if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be in a position to care for someone else.
And remember “Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.” – Christopher Germer
Perhaps you would like to join me in meditating daily?
Do you need to find your phone in your fridge to know you need to slow down and take care of yourself? Or perhaps you have other warning signals? The important thing is you notice them and take some small steps to build your resilience and resourcefulness so you are best placed to handle life’s inevitable challenges.
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